Guest post! Kathi Lipp and Cheri Gregory: The Only Failure Worth Fearing

( Please welcome my friends Kathi Lipp and Cheri Gregory to the blog today! Overwhelmed is their new project, and I’m sure you’ll enjoy digging in and finding hope and help for not just “those days” but all days.;)  

February 1 was when I started hating myself.

 As an optimist, I started the New Year out right: with a slew of idealistic resolutions to make massive personal improvements.

(Which, as a pre-crastinator, I had written, re-written, revised, and proofread throughout November and December.)

At long last, this will be my year of change!

 The first week of January, everything went well. More than well. Perfectly, in fact. (Because I could pull off perfect for seven straight days.)

The second week, things went almost as well. A few slip-up. (Mostly things I was supposed to do that I didn’t get around to, rather than things I wasn’t supposed to do that I actually did.) But these small errors just made me determined to get back on track again.
 Week 3 was the trainwreck. My white-knuckling gave way to caving in: sleeping when my schedule said “exercising,” sneaking dessert before dinner, shouting at my preschoolers. Over and over again.

 Week 4, I frantically triaged my New Years Resolution wreckage, desperate to cling to one thing I could actually stick to.

 All the way through January 31 I held out hope that I could change, even a little bit.

 But come February 1st, it was all over. January was no more. My optimistic spark was snuffed.

I was overwhelmed by hopelessness.

 The difference between my ideal intentions for my life and the reality of my struggles was staggering.

 Clearly, I concluded, I could not change.

 Or at least I couldn’t change enough for the changes to count. To matter. To match up to my ideals.

So, I quit trying.

 Why bother setting goals when I already know I’m going to fail?

The Trap of All-or-Nothing Thinking

 In hindsight, I can see how All-or-Nothing Thinking sabotaged me.

 It’s not that I didn’t change: I didn’t change enough.

 When I couldn’t reach All — the ideal I’d set up for myself — it was easier to settle for Nothing.

 When we’re held hostage by All-or-Nothing Thinking, all we notice is what we’ve done wrong. How we’re not measuring up. How we’re “failing.”

 “And since you can’t get it right?” All-or-Nothing Thinking tells you, “You might as well quit trying!”

 This feels so logical in the moment.

But brain science has proven it false.​

According to research on neuroplasticity, external changes are not the only measure of progress.

When you attempt to change, internal changes occur in your brain even when no outward changes can yet be seen. 

The Truth About Failure

We’ve wasted too much time fearing failure.

 Worshipped the perfection of our idealized intentions rather than taking obedient action.

Believed that having good intentions (while doing nothing) is better than doing our best (and quite possibly failing.)

So here, at the start of 2017, let’s revisit the question:

Why bother setting goals when we already know we’re going to fail?

And recognize the truth about failure:

The only failure worth fearing is the failure to even try.

Our best intentions are worthless.

But our least attempts are invaluable.

God calls you to take the next most faithful step.

And as you obey, you don’t just change.

You are transformed into who He made you to be. 

“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that”—instead of being overwhelmed—”you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”

 Romans 15:13 NIV


Instead of making New Year’s resolutions (that will only last for a week), how about creating a Personal manifesto that will carry you through the rest of your life? Sign up for great ideas and resources about how to get out from Overwhelmed and you will receive “How to Write Your Personal Manifesto” as our gift to you. Get off the overwhelming cycle of making and breaking resolutions and create a gentle plan for lasting life change.

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Kathi and Cheri would like to send a copy of Overwhelmed: Quiet the Chaos & Restore Your Sanity to one of our readers!

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That’s it! Once you do both, your name will be entered into the random drawing. Be sure to tell your friends so they can sign up ! I’ll be doing the drawing Friday, January 6, 2017. {Contest is limited to US & Canadian readers only.}

About Overwhelmed

 Feeling overwhelmed? Wondering if it’s possible to move from “out of my mind” to “in control” when you’ve got too many projects on your plate and too much mess in your relationships?

Kathi and Cheri want to show you five surprising reasons why you become stressed, why social media solutions don’t often work, and how you can finally create a plan that works for you. As you identify your underlying hurts, uncover hope, and embrace practical healing, you’ll understand how to…

• trade the to-do list that controls you for a calendar that allows space in your life

• decide whose feedback to forget and whose input to invite

• replace fear of the future with peace in the present

 You can simplify and savor your life—guilt free! Clutter, tasks, and relationships may overwhelm you now, but God can help you overcome with grace.



 Kathi Lipp is a busy conference and retreat speaker and the bestselling author of several books, including Clutter Free, The Husband Project, and The Get Yourself Organized Project. She and her husband, Roger, live in California and are the parents of four young adults.

Cheri Gregory spends her weekdays teaching teens and weekends speaking at women’s retreats. She’s been married to her college sweetheart, Daniel, for more than 28 years. The Gregorys and their young adult kids, Annemarie and Jonathon, live in California.


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