Thanks, Today Show- But, I Refuse to take the Mommy Wars, Bait.

“Seriously? Are we still here? It’s 2015.”

That was my response to the discussion this morning on The Today Show.  Inspired by an Op-Ed piece written by A SAHM. She said (I’m paraphrasing)  “Parenting is not a job, it’s a privilege.”

Which somehow managed to spur another round of Mommy Wars. Somehow the questions it raised were “Is parenting a job? ” i.e. a “real” job. A  Career, with a capital C.

Totally missed the point. And I’m totally not taking the bait. It wasn’t a Mommy Wars Attack post- it was a perspective post on parenting as privilege vs parenting as a burden. It wasn’t an attack on working moms. It wasn’t a call to re-categorize/ recognize parenting as a “Job.”

I agree that parenting is a privilege.  (And a high calling, actually.)

I also agree that it is work. Hard work. Someday’s I’d go so far as to say it feels burdensome.  Grueling. Exhausting. And wonderful.

I’d call it: a vocation.

a strong feeling of suitability for a particular career or occupation.“not all of us have a vocation to be nurses or doctors”
synonyms: calling, life’s work, mission, purpose, function; More a person’s employment or main occupation, especially regarded as particularly worthy and requiring great dedication.
“her vocation as a poet”
a trade or profession.

Do I really care if you call it a “Job?” A “Career?”

Nope. In my opinion, that’s  just arguing semantics.

Like most people-  I just want my sacrifices and work to be respected  (And appreciated would be nice too. But I’m a mom and much of what we all do goes un appreciated until there is no food and people are running around naked due to a clean laundry shortage. Or, pubescent meltdowns go un mitigated due to lack of parental availability….It happens to all of us. Even SAHM’s aren’t home 24/7. There’s a lot of appointment and carpool and time management overlaps.)

Call it what you will-  A job? A career? A vocation? Just know that it’s hard and  involves daily sacrifices.

As do all vocations.

They’re also: worth it.





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