“Seriously? Are we still here? It’s 2015.”
That was my response to the discussion this morning on The Today Show. Inspired by an Op-Ed piece written by A SAHM. She said (I’m paraphrasing) “Parenting is not a job, it’s a privilege.”
Which somehow managed to spur another round of Mommy Wars. Somehow the questions it raised were “Is parenting a job? ” i.e. a “real” job. A Career, with a capital C.
Totally missed the point. And I’m totally not taking the bait. It wasn’t a Mommy Wars Attack post- it was a perspective post on parenting as privilege vs parenting as a burden. It wasn’t an attack on working moms. It wasn’t a call to re-categorize/ recognize parenting as a “Job.”
I agree that parenting is a privilege. (And a high calling, actually.)
I also agree that it is work. Hard work. Someday’s I’d go so far as to say it feels burdensome. Grueling. Exhausting. And wonderful.
I’d call it: a vocation.
a strong feeling of suitability for a particular career or occupation.“not all of us have a vocation to be nurses or doctors”
synonyms: calling, life’s work, mission, purpose, function; More a person’s employment or main occupation, especially regarded as particularly worthy and requiring great dedication.
“her vocation as a poet”
a trade or profession.
Do I really care if you call it a “Job?” A “Career?”
Nope. In my opinion, that’s just arguing semantics.
Like most people- I just want my sacrifices and work to be respected (And appreciated would be nice too. But I’m a mom and much of what we all do goes un appreciated until there is no food and people are running around naked due to a clean laundry shortage. Or, pubescent meltdowns go un mitigated due to lack of parental availability….It happens to all of us. Even SAHM’s aren’t home 24/7. There’s a lot of appointment and carpool and time management overlaps.)
Call it what you will- A job? A career? A vocation? Just know that it’s hard and involves daily sacrifices.
As do all vocations.
They’re also: worth it.