It’s not just the fairy tales we read to our children that are full of myth. It’s our perceptions of each other. Not so much a problem in fairy tales, but a big problem in Mom-life. he myths we believe about ourselves and each other build walls between us. The walls are made of the assumption that we don’t need to get to know someone different, because we think we already DO know them., based on what we assume from the tiny bit we see.
Here’s the thing: In my 20 years of mothering and working with mothers as a pastoral counselor and MOPS leader, I’ve learned this… I don’t always recognize the myths I believe, until I meet a mom who blows them away.
My goal: To use humor and truth to create a project that can BUST the Mommy Myths we believe.
These myths cause us to judge and criticize each other without bothering to find out the truth about each other. They divide us into false categories and make us hurt each other with words and actions. These myths hurt us individually and corporately as a mothering community.
What would happen if moms could get past the assumptions, prejudices and myths we believe about each other and learn to respect and appreciate each other? I have a feeling we could change the world. The hand that rocks the cradle truly DOES rule the world. I am on a mission to help moms rock the world TOGETHER.
Will you help?
I am looking for the top ten (maybe 20) myths we believe about each other as moms. I also need to define them and confront them. This isn’t about hating on each other for holding these myths.. it’s about smacking down the myths with a foundational truth- we are mothers, regardless of our style, background and choices.
Below is a list to start you thinking. I’ll be adding to it as we go. Please either post your thoughts about other archetypes we hold as mothers and the myths we believe about them… ie SAHM’s sit around in their jammies and eat bon-bns all day) in the comments- or email them to me- at soltrcy at aol DoT CoM (you’ll need to format the addy correctly but you get the jist) You can also Tweet your ideas to me- follow @traceysolomon or you can add to the conversation on my facebook page. All emailed and twittered myths will be kept confidential unless you state otherwise. (Some of these myths are more volatile than others)
I appreciate your input, authenticity and prayers as I work on this project! Let’s bust some Mommy Myths!
PLEASE be sure to click the MORE button at the bottom of this post- the rest of the list we’ve started is there. :)
SAHM- Stay at home moms- moms who don’t work outside the home for a paycheck.
Working Moms- Moms who work outside (or inside the home) for a paycheck.
Welfare Moms- Moms struggling financially and on assistance of some sort.
Well off Moms- Moms for whom budget issues are less intrusive to daily life. (hard to define)
Home School Mom- A mom who educates her child at home.
Public School Moms-
Private School Mom- children are enrolled in private school.
Free Range Mom-
Type A mom- perfectionist
Slacker Mom- the minimum is the maximum.
Granola Mom- organic foods etc.
First time Mom-
Mega Moms- (those who mother everyone they meet)
Girl Moms- (Moms with only female children)
Boy Moms- (Moms with only male children)
Young Moms- (could be teen moms or the younger than me mom- whatever age “I” am)
Only Child Mom- A mom with one child.
Large Family Mom- Moms with more than 3 children. (Of course I say more than 3- I HAVE 3 thats the norm, rt? See how it happens? MYTH! :P)
Sports Mom (soccer, hockey)
Lesbian/ Bi-sexual Moms-
Non- Church Moms-
Work Out Moms-
Yuppies, Yippies and Hippies: