Of Pride and Prejudice….. NOT the Movie;)



Have you ever had the thought… “I’ll never be one of THOSE_____people?” I have to admit, I have. On more than one occasion. There can be a lot of pride in that statement. “ONE of those”…….It puts ME— and my preferences OVER someone elses. Sometimes, I’ve made the statement about quasi-silly things—- like todays- picture…… Ummmmm YES- that’s my Spinning Wheel.

Yes, my Spinning (as in Sleeping Beauty, Rumplestiltskin, Little House on The Prairie…) type spinning wheel. I’m still a little shocked. I guess- now that I’m pretty comfortable with knitting- I just wanted to “step it up”… take it to the next level… experience a new challenge. Yes- spin my own yarn.

If you had suggested it may be possible- a year ago- that I’d be trying to spin— I’d have LAUGHED in your face. Probably, not very nicely. And, I certanly would have thrown in a sarcastic comment or two- about my “high-heels ” not being conducive to peddaling a spinning wheel…. or something to that effect. Yet- at the moment a spinning wheel sits in my dining room. And- yes, It’s mine. ๐Ÿ˜‰

I wish I could say this is my first little “come-uppence” when it comes to “Pride and Prejudice”… but- it’s not. I remember thinking— and TALKING about how I’d NEVER “Homeschool” my kids— cause you know—– “those women” wear NO MAKE-UP, (:0) don’t cut their hair- wear tennis shoes with long skirts…and only speak “King James”…. then we decided our kids NEEDED to be homeschooled………. (so we did, for 3 years-!!!)

Lets just say— Not EVERYONE who homeschools meets my prejudiced “criteria”… though- I did meet some women I really came to areally appreciate- who DID! (well- and some kooks- but NOT as many as I thought!)

I can also remember- being absolutely convinced- that anyone who sent their child to public school- was NUTS, and neglectful of both their education, and their safety…..until- we realized that there were opportunities that my child would best have access to- in public high school!

Then, there is the whole…… “what kind of church do you go to ” issue…… as a young Christian, if you didn’t go to a church like MINE…(contemporary worship music- “teaching” style messages) I was pretty convinced you were missing out- and definitely in the wrong. A member of our church staff addressed the question of “Why are there so many Kinds of churches..” on his blog recently-( http://www.partofthestory.com/) and the question- has challenged- and caused me to think- ever since.

Until, I became involved in MOPS International…. I thought your music, your teaching- your liturgical “style” had to be like mine- in order for you to be ” a Christian”… otherwise, you were relegated to the “one of THOSE______” categories. I was pretty full- of “Pride (in my way) and Prejudice- (against yours)”.

I’m really working hard- to maintain the “Big Picture” when it comes to Christianity. Please don’t misunderstand, I believe there are “negotiables” and “non-negotiables”. Jesus- gets to determine what those are- not me. He focuses on HIM being the only way to salvation. So, I try to do the same. I think we spend too much time- in our own “Pride and Prejudices” when it comes to the “negotiables”….. like worship music, syle of preaching/teaching, traditions, liturgical style….resources for and of ministry— etc. (PUHLEEZE!)

I guess I see it this way: There is only ONE way to get to heaven- that’s through Jesus.( based on His statement of this truth – not mine- see John 14- http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?book_id=50&chapter=14&version=31 )

Then, I see a lot of flexibility- when it comes to our unique EXPRESSION of that faith. It’s my opinion, that there are many different expressions of faith- that are equal in their value- to their unique congregations. I also believe- that this isn’t an accident. See- My home church, meets my unique needs- and (I like to think) that I fill a unique “need” in that local body…. not just in spite of my unique qualities, but- because of them. Like pieces- of a puzzle- It’s a good fit- for both.

But- honestly- do I think it would be for EVERYONE? Nope. Nor, do I think It has to be. I’m probably sensitive to this because I have family members who I know- probably would be distracted,(by “Youthful sounding music” or uncomfortable in a less that traditional (in STYLE) church. Yet- they have a need- to find God- and know the truth about Him, in a place where they feel a good “fit”. I also find a precedence in scripture- Jesus spoke differently- to different people- based on who they were- to fishermen- he used “fishing” analogies to clarify the truth, to shepherds- he spoke of sheep.

Did his message change? Nope. Did His method? Yep.

There is a lot of talk in Christian circles- especially about approaches to “Doing Church”- some of which is helpful- some I think is just divisive. I think I draw the determining line here: When we think (about the negotiables) that it’s “Our Way” or else- you’re one of “Those people….”… Proud- or Prejudiced. I think it’s divisive. Instead- I desire to appreciate the uniqueness in Christianity, as other “strokes- for other folks”…

Truth is- I think God gets “the Big Picture”…. we each (each-type of Christ centered- church) have a passion (and a calling) for a certain “part” of God’s puzzle, but throughout the whole- of Christianity- God ministers to the “Big Picture”—- one that takes into account- all the different people- that will need to be “fitted” into the puzzle- meeting them where they are- and creating a beautiful, and complete, mosaic of Faith.

There are 80+ year old people, who need Jesus- (and – honestly aren’t part of the post-modern culture!) and they may not be open to the “rock n roll” church…. but, are their souls less important to God? Nope. Not one bit. There needs (desperately) to be a place for them- in Christianity. And- it’s true- my teens would have a hard time- worshipping to music they found distracting- or distasteful. Are they less important? NOPE.

Baby Boomers- Gen Xers- whatever else we find as a label— we live in a world that is INTERGENERATIONAL. Cross- Cultural. Unique. It’s doubtful any ONE TYPE of church will be able to accommodate the differences in the “puzzle pieces”…. yet- together- we can.

As a leader- in MOPS- I have been amazed at the different ways that God ministers- yet- the message is still the same. Christ- Christ Crucified, Christ resurrected, Our sin covered in Christ’s sinless perfection, and sacrifice. Christ glorified in our lives.

When I see that spinning wheel in my living room, ( or the pile of old homeschool books in my basement- or the newsletter from my Son’s public High school- or an ad from a “DIFFERENT” CHRIST centered church…..) I hope it reminds me of those things—-Of my own ” Pride and Prejudices”…. and I hope it challenges me to know, and stand-up for the “non-negotiables”…. and not waste time and effort on “The THOSE PEOPLE” statements- whether they are spoken, or just stored in my heart…..

‘Cause- let’s face it—- ya just never know- when your needs, or your desires may change— and turn YOU into a “homeschooling, knitting, spinning , rock concert attending mother of Teens and Preschoolers”—– you know ๐Ÿ˜‰ …. “One of THOSE”! Or- you may be seen as one- just as you are. Right now, by someone else. (Maybe ME! ๐Ÿ˜‰ )

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